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SO BEACHY
We’re daydreaming of playing hooky and heading to the beach. Can you blame us?
Top Row: Greece via Amanda/ Driftwood Display Table via The Blue House
Second Row: Flasks For Wedding Party via izola/ Captain’s Hat For Dance Party via The Mad Hueys/ Shell Stirrers via Camille Styles
Third Row: Laura & Jeremy’s Itinerary from Style Me Pretty/ Tree Decor from Laura & Jeremy’s Kona Wedding
Fourth Row: Oceanic Plates via Kirstie/ Watercolor Wallpaper via Designer’s Guild
Last Row: Seersucker Suit via Sierra Trading Post/ Something Blue Handkerchief via KJ Beckett/ Leather Boat Shoe via OK Market/ Anchor Cuff-link via Superette
ENGAGEMENT SHOOTS
LOCATION
Inevitably this is the first thing you will consider during the planning of your session. Its always nice to consider a place that has sentimental meaning to the two of you, but not completely necessary. If you dont have that “special place” already in mind, dont hesitate to ask your photographer for their personal recommendations. A seasoned photographer should be able to give you a variety to choose from.
Also, keep in mind that there are many different types of locations and each will lend a different look to your photos. Do you want something urban and edgy or more organic and natural? Be sure to ask your photographer to research permits requirements as often times locations will require you to purchase a permit before using their location. In my experience they can vary from $15 to $500 for a single session.
WARDROBE
After your location has been nailed down you can start the fun process of picking out what to wear. While I consider this one of the most exciting aspects of planning your shoot it can also be the most intimidating. Just remember to keep it simple. Neutral colors usually photograph best along with small pops of brighter shades. Worried about what to wear? Try looking through catalog for fit and style ideas and current trends. Also, rummage through your closet. Maybe you have a dress or top that has been waiting for it’s debut. Retailers such as J. Crew and Banana Republic also offer complimentary personal stylists to help you coordinate outfit ideas. Call ahead of time to make an appointment and don’t be afraid to bring in what you already have so they can help you build an outfit around an existing piece.
The thought of coordinating what you and your fiance will wear can be tricky. If your anything like me, just a mention of the word “coordinate” and I cant help but conjure images of cheesy matching polos and jeans. Remember, you don’t have to be match-y match-y. You don’t even have to wear the same colors! Instead of bothering to matching colors, patterns, or specific pieces – think about the style of the outfits in relation to one another i.e. dont be wearing jeans and a tee when your fiance is wearing slacks and a button down. Going for casual? Keep it simple with jeans or chinos, shorts, skirts, sundresses, cardigans, tees, and blouses. Want to change into a more refined outfit? Blazers, pencil skirts, suiting dresses, heels, boots, and button ups are appropriate. Keep in mind that it is customary to bring 2-3 outfits to a single session. And don’t forget the accessories! For him: hats, tie clips, sunglasses, ties, pocket squares, and belts. For her: necklaces, hats, scarves, belts, and hair accessories.
BRIAN ANDREAS FOR THE NEWLYWEDS
I’m full on stalker status when it comes to Brian Andreas. He’s my all time favorite living poet and artist type for the sweetest words filled with whimsy. I can’t think of anything better than one of his lovely prints for the newlyweds in your life. Here are just a couple of my favorites, but he has so so many great pieces. Check them out here…
DATE NIGHT
If you find yourself obsessing about the wedding, make a date with your soon to be where the only rule is you cannot speak about the wedding during your time together. It will help you regain perspective about what’s truly important. Happy Friday!
The image above is from the lovely, Heather Kincaid.
QUICK TIP: CINEMATOGRAPHY
Cinematography catches many moments that photography simply can’t such as your vows and toasts. Even if you’re not convinced you’re the type to watch a video, someday you might wish you could hear your father’s wedding day wish to you again and again. For that reason alone, this heirloom is worth every penny. Here’s one of our favorite films created by Living Cinema from Jennifer & Canute’s Vermont Wedding at Trapp Family Lodge:
Jennifer & Canute’s Vermont Wedding Preview from Living Cinema on Vimeo.
ADVICE FROM OUR COVER GIRL
If you’ve had the chance to peek through Darling, you’re already probably very familiar with our beautiful bride (and very first cover girl), Michelle. She married Austin in East Hampton, New York and their day is one of our featured weddings. We were thrilled to be a part of all of the design & planning! We asked Michelle to share her advice for future brides-to-be now that she has some hindsight and distance from her wedding day and here’s what she said:
BEAUTIFUL BOTANICALS
We, and many of our clients, are so obsessed with botanicals right now. How could we not be?
TOP: Tess & Peter’s Bel Air Wedding by Amy & Stuart
2ND: Botanical Day Dress from Mina Perhonen/Charlotte Olympia Lucite Pandora Clutch/Buzz Earrings from Anthro/Pegasus Necklace from Stella & Dot/Nude Patent Heels by Gianmarco Lorenzi
3RD: New Living Room from Bri Emery/Kari & Elan’s Carmel Wedding
4TH: Botanicals & Bling from The Tiger & The Home/Green Velvet Sofa/Vertical Garden Lamp from Anthro
SHARING YOUR BUDGET
Sharing your budget is a function of trust and we almost never force our clients into this conversation until they’re ready. However, as you plan your day, it’s good to share a comfort zone. Without any gauge, expect your planner to suggest things that will seem frivolous to you or even worse withhold fabulous ideas or resources from you due to assumptions about your budget and comfort zone. Get to know your planner and when the trust is there try to open up a bit about your finances. It will save a lot of headache and heartache in the end.
The above moment was captured by Caroline Tran from James & Janet’s Vibiana Wedding.
LINENS ARE EVERYTHING
Textiles are everything to me. When you design with such attention to even the tiniest of details, every texture matters. When designing big and over the top, you might be able to sneak in a cheap satin or even a poly cotton because there is so much distraction going on elsewhere, but when going effortless and refined, you have to choose the right textile every single time. Beyond that, linens quite simply just change the look of the day completely. Take the above images for example. This is the exact same place setting. One on a timeless blush raw silk with a hemstitch napkin and the other a black leather linen that screams rock-n-roll edge. I love both looks wholeheartedly, but as you can see, they are very, very different. As you design your day, don’t forget the importance of choosing the right linen. They are essentially the canvas on which you will create your design and matter so much more than most realize.
BEHIND THE SCENES AT BHE : GET BACK TO CLIENTS
No matter what else you do, nothing matters more than responding to clients in a timely manner. Selfishly, it means more clients will hire you which equals more money but beyond that, response time is a key factor in developing trust between you and your clients. Which, believe it or not, trust means the ability to work more efficiently and often can lead to less client interaction. When you don’t respond to a client, it sends them into a panic. The best possible scenario, they just think you’re unprofessional or bad at time management. On the dramatic side, they think you’re dead in a ditch or have taken their money and run. This cycle leads to more calls, more emails, more talking everyone down off the bridge. All of which could have been avoided with a simple, “Hi there! I see your message and will respond to you as soon as possible.” Just something to let them know you haven’t forgotten them. That they are still a priority and that you will do everything in your power to make sure their every need and whim is attended to. And, if you’re at the point where you don’t even have time for that, well, it might be time to get an assistant. There is no reason you should be taking on more and more clients if you’re not able to take a moment to acknowledge the ones you have.
The above image is by Jose Villa from our Southern Cotton Photoshoot at Huntington Gardens.
SOMETHING BLUE
Just a few of our favorite somethings that can fulfill your need for something blue…
1. Harlow Statement Necklace by Kendra Scott
2. Chanel’s Nail Colour in Limited Edition, Bel-Argus
3. Gucci Gloria Pumps from Bloomingdale’s
THROWBACK THURSDAY : LOUISA & JOHN GET HITCHED
A little throwback Thursday for ya’ll with one of my all time favorite weddings. Louisa & John’s organic garden vibe was so effortless and full of charm. I loved every minute of it! Images are by the too-good-for-words, Jose Villa.
AFTER THE KISS
Some of our absolute favorite ways to shower the couple…
First Row: Confetti via Samm Blake
Second Row: Confetti from Jacey & Grant’s Wedding
Third Row: Lavender via KT Merry
Fourth Row: Ribbon via June Bug Company
Fifth Row: Sparklers from Tess & Petter’s Wedding
Sixth Row: Loose Petals from Helen & Mike’s Wedding
Seventh Row: Loose Petals from Nina & Russell’s Wedding
QUICK TIP : ENTERING THE RECEPTION
Never let guests walk into a quiet room. Before opening the reception doors the band or DJ should already be playing a high energy song in a genre that sets the tone you hope to communicate. Music will help to continue to build the energy that’s already been built during the emotional ceremony and the festive cocktail hour.
Above image courtesy of Steve Steinhardt from Bettina & Brian’s Malibu Wedding at Gull’s Way
LET’S SAFARI
I want to have adventures with you…
Top Row: Safari Getaway Car via Martha Stewart/ White Orchid Bouquet via Datura
Second Row: Animal Vases great for escort cards via Urban Barn/ Banana Leaf Side Table via Zin Home/ Zebra Pillow via One Kings Lane
Third Row: Tiki Torches from Style Me Pretty/ “Let’s Eat” from Tess & Peter’s Bel Air Wedding
Fourth Row: Table Setting via Swoon Over It Studio
Fifth Row: Green With Envy for this Decor via Small Shop/ Bath Under the Stars via ABC
Last Row: Banana Leaf Maxi via Topshop/ Animal Necklace great for welcome bags via Unique Spool/ Christian Lacroix Earrings/ Fold Over Clare Vivier Clutch via Lyst/ Peep Toe Heels via iOffer/ Every Woman’s Secret Weapon via Sephora
TRAVEL MUST-HAVES
I’ve flown close to 40,000 miles in the month of May alone. It’s been a bit crazy to say the least…I’m the first to admit that it can be challenging to maintain your lifestyle when traveling so much, but after many years of this, I think I’ve finally got it down. This being said, I thought I’d share a few of my travel must-haves that tend to get me by.
TOTE: I don’t go anywhere without my Longchamp tote. It’s not only pretty but it can take a solid beating and still look polished. I cannot recommend this enough.
HEADPHONES: I love my Urbanears Tomato Headphones. Not because they are the most amazing headphones ever, but because they come in such lovely colors. And, pretty always wins out over functionality in a designer’s world.
TRAVEL DRESS: Splendid’s long sleeve maxi dress is my go to for every flight. It’s warm and comfy and when paired with a scarf or denim jacket, still looks fresh.
SANDALS: Dolce Vita makes my all time favorite sandals in every color. They’re as comfy as your average flip flops but still have a bit of polish to them.
DAY DRESS: Joie’s Soft line has the greatest wrinkle free dresses ever. I always travel with one so I can go straight from the plane to a meeting when needed.
LINEN BAGS: Way back when my bestie bought me monogrammed bags for my jewelry and lingerie. I love them so. They make me feel put together and girlie when my whole world is in disarray due to my hectic schedule. This set is from Turq Jewelry.
BRACELET: I love my leather Tory Burch bracelet. I literally wear it with EVERYTHING for a quick touch. It’s a definite staple.
THE TEE: J. Crew’s Vintage Tees are my go to tees. I do everything in them. I sleep, workout and just cruise about town in them, if I get a few hours to myself. So comfy. Virtually wrinkle free and just effortless.
NECKLACE: I always have a basic locket with pictures of those I love inside. This one from House of Harlow is a definite classic.
DENIM: Mother Jeans are where it’s at. I love their Skinny jeans myself, but they have a style for everyone. They are so comfortable and when my maxi is a little dirty, I’ve spent 14 hour flights in these little beauties.
MY WORKOUT: When at home, I head to Barry’s Bootcamp, but when I travel, I never really know what I’m going to have available. So, I’m always prepared with workout memes to get me by. This one is from my super fab trainer, Ricardo Vargas, is my all time favorite. It totally kicks my bum every time.
FLATS: A comfortable pair of flats is a must for every trip. These are from Chloe, but Lanvin, Burberry and Chanel all make perfectly polished flats.
RUNNING SHOES: I don’t go anywhere without these. As I mentioned, I never know what my workout will be, but 99% of the time, there is always a place to run. These are my Nike Frees in my signature colors, black & gold, but you should obviously, find the perfect pair for yourself.
QUICK TIP: ON HIRING A PHOTOGRAPHER
Before hiring a photographer always ask to see a full wedding rather than just a few of their favorite, edited down images they show online. Everyone can get a few pretty shots, but looking at a full wedding will allow you to see if they can consistently create beautiful images throughout the day shooting in a variety of elements, lighting, etc. While not every image in a real wedding has to be perfect, you should resonate with more than 5 to 10 of the over 1000 images you are likely to receive. Pay attention to how they capture portraits, intimate moments/candid shots, details and any other priorities you might have. Some photographers are amazing at posed portraits, but aren’t as intuitive when it comes to capturing those little hidden moments. And, some photographers can capture amazing magazine worthy details, but aren’t the best at shooting those heirloom family portraits everyone needs. Some are perfect at shooting in natural light, but not great with nighttime shots. Identify what’s most important to you and that will help you find the best fit overall.
The above image was capture by one of our favorite and oh so consistent photographers, Steve Steinhardt from Jaime & Wes’s Bali Wedding.
GLITTERY BBQ
We’re in the process of designing the most fabulous, sparkly BBQ welcome party and we cannot wait! Here’s a little sneak peek…
Top Row: Hot Pink Tinsel via Artfire
Second Row: Shimmer Donut via Camille Styles/ Family Style Eating from Surya & Nick’s Colorado Wedding
Third Row: Chalkboard Menu from Laura Hooper/Champagne Wagon via Southern Living
Fourth Row: Vintage Dr. Pepper’s from Style Me Pretty/Neon Pink Paper Straws via Waiting on Martha/ Pink Wax Paper via Zazzle
Fifth Row: Neon Dipped Silverware via Apartment Therapy/ Sparkle Drink Stirrer via Shannon Cunningham
Sixth Row: Craft Paper Runner with Place Card via Cece & Co
Last Row: Sparklers via Geoff Myers
FIRE
We’re spicing it up today with a bit of fiery goodness…
TOP ROW: Nina & Russell’s Smog Shop Wedding by Jonathan Canlas
6TH ROW: Zoe & Griff’s Brentwood Wedding by Steve Steinhardt / Tara & Kurt’s Welcome Party by Steve Steinhardt
BOTTOM ROW: Jessica & Chetan’s Paris Wedding by Steve Steinhardt
YOU WILL
Image & meme courtesy of Steve Steinhardt from Jennifer & Canute’s Vermont Wedding at Trapp Family Lodge
BEHIND THE SCENES: IF YOU CAN’T SAY SOMETHING NICE…
My momma, just like everyone else’s, always said, “if you can’t say something nice, keep it to yourself.” Every day social media is making this common courtesy harder and harder to remember. With so much pressure to let followers “know who you really are” and so on, I simply feel like many of us are forgetting our manners. Especially when it comes to sharing our opinions about weddings and wedding design. It’s completely one thing to discuss among your colleagues and associates your disdain for “yard sale” chic weddings or to share that you’re “so over hipster weddings”, but to announce it to the world, is, quite simply rude. I think we’ve all forgotten how significant this day is to the couples planning them. If they want mustaches, mason jars, plastic animals spray painted gold, and so on, well then, that’s their personal style and just let it be. While, I agree, that many of these trends can be irrelevant to the celebration at hand and maybe I personally wouldn’t do them at my own wedding, but it’s simply not my place to make that judgment. And, if I were a bride who did decide she loved mason jars, I would be pretty disenchanted with the wedding industry as a whole to watch so many leaders speak out against my style.
Weddings are personal. The choices made are agonized over for days, weeks and sometimes even months. And, some couples out there simply want a day that feels right to them, whether it’s the most unique celebration in the world or just a lovely party that they created via inspiration from blogs, pinterest and the top designers of our industry. This being said, you wouldn’t walk up to a stranger and tell them you hate their shoes, so why would you ever announce the world, including thousands and thousands of adoring brides that you hate her personal style? Of course, our job is to guide our paying clients on design decisions and help them create a unique and cohesive look. And believe me, with my clients, I can be very vocal about what works and what doesn’t. But for that lovely bride out there, who lives for DIY and is simply trying to pull together a charming day that she truly loves, can we please try to be a little kinder all around? And, maybe, even though we are writing behind the safety of our computers, we can remember to simply mind our manners.
SOMETHING BORROWED
Earrings or clutch also make great options.
Left: Jody & Patrick/Bacara Resort
Right: Talia & Aaron/Santa Barbara
I don’t know about yours, but my grandmother has the most out of this world vintage handkerchiefs in her collection. They are perfect for wrapping around the handle of your bouquet.
SHAKESPEARE IN THE PARK & SUMMER PICNICS
One of my absolute favorite things to do in the summer is pack up a picnic and head to Shakespeare in the Park. I’ve lived in three major cities so far and each have had a version of this experience, so everyone should be able to partake. Highly, highly recommend for a date night or with a group of your favorite friends. Personally, I like to pack up a bottle of wine, a little picnic basket and snuggle up on the grass.
And, in case you’ve never been to the Shakespeare festival, here’s what you’re missing. Love. Love. Love.
TOP ROW: Throw blanket from Anthropologie / Vintage enamelware, similar to be found on Etsy / Sicani Wine or any pretty bottle will do
2ND ROW: Disposable wooden silverware / Vintage picnic basket, again check out Etsy for something similar
3RD & 4TH ROW: Fresh & delicious picnic menu, all from Canelle Vanille
BOTTOM: Image from the Shakespeare Festival
SUMMER PICNICKING
Summer is opening her doors. Time to take out your finest quilts, china and silver and head to your favorite park with your friends for some relaxation, delicacies and catch-up.
Top Row: “Paris, Je t’aime” de Steve Meisel
Second Row: Jazz Age Lawn Party via Note To Self/ Silverware via Country Living
Third Row: Homemade Gift Basket via The Paper Package/ Picnic Detailing from Tara Sloggett
Fourth Row: Outdoor Dinner Party from Country Living/ Quilts from Nana Company
Fifth Row: Invites from Raquel & Franks’ Winery Inspired Wedding
Last Row: Flirty Floral Dress from Reiss/ Trendy Sandal from Kate Spade/ Nora Ring from Catbird/ Portrait Ring from Barneys/ Tory Burch Clutch via Net-A-Porter
DISCO FEVER
My current obsession is disco balls. I truly want to see them EVERYWHERE! Come back later in the week to see Kelly & Andrew’s fabulous wedding which featured a ceiling of disco balls at their after party as shown in the first picture below.
TOP ROW: Canopy of Disco Balls from Kelly & Andrew’s After Party captured by Steve Steinhardt
2nd ROW: Oh my, those stairs will be mine somewhere courtesy of Romanticizing Regular / Disco Balls for your eyes from Fuck Yeah Makeup
3rd ROW: Blingy Disco dress from Fashiolista/ Disco ball in my apartment, yes please! Found here.
BOTTOM ROW: Disco love from Saddlerock Ranch
THE DAY IT HAPPENED
The beautiful moment above was caught by Jose Villa from Louisa & John’s Malibu wedding.
INSTAGRAM RECAP : PARIS SCOUTING TRIP
Lars and I recently returned from a quick 3 day scouting trip to Paris for an upcoming wedding, which just so happens to be one of my favorite places on the planet. Here’s a little peek from some of the beauty we caught on our cameras. If you’re not already, follow us here and here to see what we’re up to on a daily basis.
DRESSES A MOTHER COULD LOVE
In honor of all you moms out there who I know absolutely HATE the stereotypical gowns designed for mother’s of the brides and grooms, I’ve hand selected just a couple of my favorite pretty numbers. All of which are fresh yet appropriate…
All gowns above are from Neiman’s.
TO DO LIST FOR YOUR DOWNTIME
Start your beauty regimen
If you haven’t been following my girl, Susie’s posts, then click here, here and here to find a way to start treating your skin right all the while getting it ready for the big day.
Start your pre-wedding workouts
Whether you are planning a full blown program with a personal trainer or you’re just going to step up your current regimen a notch, now’s a good time to get moving.
Get in the gift giving mood
Start thinking about and purchasing the gifts for all of your lovely friends and family, without whom, you wouldn’t have made it this far. Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, Parents or even the people who will serve as guest book attendant, etc. all are gift worthy.
Plan that honeymoon
I’m sure you’ve already been dreaming about the perfect place to spend your honeymoon, but now let’s go ahead put those plans in place.
Start registering
Update your registry. Showers and celebrations will likely start within the last two to three months of your wedding plans and it’s great to have the registries refreshed before hand.
Start shopping
The dress will be in soon and fittings will begin! You’ll need to have your shoe options narrowed down in time for the seamstress to get started. Also, it’s always nice to see the whole package complete with jewelry, hair piece and undergarments.
Start your DIY projects
If there is anything you’re hoping to do yourself, now’s the time to get started. I promise those favors and other little goodies you are making by hand, will take much longer than you anticipate, so get them started now and save yourself many sleepless nights closer to the wedding.
Get the men’s attire in order
If your fiance is like most, he hasn’t finalized his wedding day attire. Use this time to get the discussion going and finalize details on his fancy pants.
Reconnect with your fiance
Sometimes wedding plans distract from the real situation at hand, which is, you are about to be married. You could reconnect in a variety of ways from pre-marital counseling to simply just having a few heart to hearts with your fiance about situations you anticipate facing as a married couple. It will be good to touch base in a way that doesn’t revolve around the flower girl’s hair or which napkins will look best with your table scape. Or, if you’re so inclined, just go out and have fun together.
Image courtesy of Heather Kincaid
CONSIDERING PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING
I’m sure some of you think pre-marital counseling is something that is forced upon you by the church or other groups, but, I actually get a lot of requests for information on premarital counselors, the benefits of, the time commitment, etc. Since, I’m not a therapist and would never claim to be, I did ask one of my favorite therapists, Will Baum, to give us a bit of insight for all of you considering some counseling sessions before the big day. Here’s what Will had to say…
SOMETHING NEW
Wearing something new on your wedding day represents good luck and success for you and your partner and the hope for a bright future together. Here are a few of my favorite ideas on incorporating something new into the big day and beyond.
Wedding Dress Sash by Julia Newman Photography, Custom Perfume made by you for your new beginning by Ka-Mil-Yin and photographed by Jen Huang Photography, Christian Louboutin Shoes photographed by Jasmine Star and Event by Beth Helmstetter Events, Claire Pettibone Wedding Day Lingerie shot by Elizabeth Messina, Monogramm Bracelet
GETTING AROUND
Here are just a few of our favorite means of transportation…
TOP ROW: Guest arrival by Clydesdale at Trapp Family Lodge in Stowe, Vermont from Steve Steinhardt /Vintage Rolls Royce at Liz & Chris’s Figueroa Farmhouse Wedding by Aaron Delesie
2ND ROW: Vintage buggy at Jaime & Wes’s Bali Wedding at Amanusa Resort by Steve Steinhardt
3RD ROW: Tess & Peter basking in the moment in a Vintage Bentley by Amy & Stuart
4TH ROW: Jessica & Chetan cruise the Siene in a Vintage Bateau by Steve Steinhardt
BOTTOM ROW: Jackie & Fred pose in a Vintage Firetruck at Olowalu Plantation in Maui by Manuele Photography
INTERNSHIP OPPORTUNITY
Calling all Interns, Beth Helmstetter Events is looking for an eager, fun loving, responsible person who has a strong interest and slight obsession with all things wedding related! Please send your resume and cover letter to lars@bethhelmstetter.com if you feel that you are a great fit and meet the below criteria.
Duties will include but are not limited to:
- Assist in organization, distribution, and inventory of event materials
- Sourcing of materials for upcoming events
- Shipping and receiving as well as preparation of invitations and save the dates
- Data entry & RSVP tracking
- Vendor outreach and assistance with booking vendors
- General Administrative Support
- Assistance at events
- Assistance in researching & curating online store
- Assistance in Social Media efforts including twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and blogging
Minimum Requirements:
- Current student of a 4-year College or University
- Interest in the event industry, preferably wedding related
- Basic computer skills on a MAC and extreme proficiency in Microsoft Word, Excel & Powerpoint
- Excellent internet research abilities
- Strong written and oral communication skills
- Dependability
- Organization
- Friendly Disposition & Patience
- Detail-oriented and well organized with the ability to multi-task
- Some knowledge of Photoshop. Graphic design knowledge a plus.
- A minimum commitment of 16 hours per week in our West Hollywood office.
No phone calls please.
Look forward to hearing from you!
WINE KNOW-HOW
Dying to be a wine snob but need a bit of help? Here are a few tips that will help you show off your knowledge and know how at your next dinner party!
COOL IT DOWN
Most of us know that white wine should be chilled, but did you know that certain varietals taste better at different temperatures? Light, crisp wines like Sauvignon Blanc and Pinot Grigio taste best around 35 to 40 degrees, which means about 1.5 to 2 hours in the refrigerator prior to drinking. On the other hand, richer, more buttery wines like Chardonnay actually do better in the 50 to 55 degree range or about 1 hour in the fridge.
OPEN IT UP
There are plenty of fancy wine openers on the market, some of which are more bout form than function which can be a little costly. One of the simplest most reliable tools is a simple waiter’s key. For around $5, this does everything you need and will last for years. If you prefer the look and ease of a lever-style opener, the Tower Power levee corkscrew is a great value at around $40.
DECANTING
Giving wine some time to breath makes a world of difference. Decanting isn’t rocket science either. The larger the surface area exposed to the wine, the better the decanting and flavor. Pour your wine into a decanter or carafe and let is sit for an hour. If you don’t have time, try a Vinturi Aerator. Pouring a glassful through the acrylic funnel exposes the wine to air very quickly and gives you an instant decanting.
TIME TO POUR
Have you ever noticed after you pour a glass of wine how a little seems to dribble down the side of the bottle? Once your wine is chilled and decanted, pour into the glass, and as you’re finishing, slightly twist your wrist and tilt up the bottle. This method works like a charm to keep every last drop into your glass and off your table.
CREATING A WINERY INSPIRED MENU
Can’t have your day in Napa, but love the idea of a winery inspired menu? We tapped culinary expert, Brooke Bagliatto, of Carneros Inn, to share her top tips on creating a wedding menu straight from the wine valley.
WINE PAIRINGS
Wine is one of the most important parts of the meal when created a winery inspired menu. Start with a lighter wine and move into heavier wines as the meal progresses. This sometimes means moving courses a lithe out of the “normal” order to accommodate. For instance, you may want to have your salad course before your starter course so you may pair the sale with a lighter, crisper wine than the starter course. Share the level of wine you are looking for with your chef and examples of wines you already enjoy. From there allow your chef & sommelier to make the suggested wine pairings based on the menu created. Make sure you list your pairings on the menu as well so guests can get the full experience.
LOCALITY, SEASONALITY & SUSTAINABILITY
It’s no secret that the best meals start with the freshest products. Food that is grown locally doesn’t have to travel far and therefore is harvested at its peak ripeness. Locally grown products are typically dictated by season, so let your chef guide you into what products are going to be the best and most abundant at the time of your wedding. Asparagus may look beautiful in the picture from your favorite magazine, but if you’re having an October wedding, a seasonal squash will probably taste much better.
GOOD FOOD HAS A STORY
Wedding guests really enjoy knowing where their food is coming from. Knowing that the figs featured on their salad are the same ones growing on the tress 20 feet away is a lot of fun and should be included on the menu when possible. Ask your chef to be descriptive in his menus sharing all the details about the food including the farms it came from.
Photo from Jose Villa from Natalie & Pat’s Big Day.
THE WEDDING DAY NAPA STYLE
Here are just a few design tips if you’re Napa bound for your wedding & celebration:
THE DECOR
Go residential all the way with a touch of refined luxury. Think understated elegance with a wedding that feels more inspired by your favorite interior designer than any other wedding out there.
THE ENTERTAINMENT
A baby grand overlooking the vineyards is the perfect juxtaposition of sophistication and nature. Pure bliss!
THE MENU
Farm to table ingredients, seasonal fare and course after course of the purest foods you will ever have. No matter what the menu consists of, go fresh and seasonal above all else.
THE DRINKS
Wine, of course! But don’t just choose your wine willy nilly. Talk to your chef who will be sure to pair your wine perfectly for each course.
CHARMING TOUCH
Go effortless in your decor and to play on the natural environment, consider moments of rustic touches like favors packaged in natural kraft paper or escort cards from clothes pins.
SWEET TREATS
Napa is the birthplace of Bouchon, the country’s best macarons, so give your day a french influence, by spoiling your guests with these wonderful and sweet treats.
All images are courtesy of Jose Villa from Natalie & Pat’s Napa Wedding.
DESTINATION SPOTLIGHT : NAPA, CALIFORNIA
Ahhh…Napa. There’s no place that makes you want to relax, eat and just be romantic more than this area. It’s seriously one of our favorite places on the planet and therefore one of the best spots to become newlyweds. Bring your family & friends here and you might have the best little destination wedding out there. Here are just a few of our favorite to dos when planning a weekend celebration in the wine country:
FOR THE LADIES
Take your best girls to Domaine Carneros to tour their facility including a French inspired Chateau followed by a tasting of some of the region’s best sparkling wine.
FOR THE GUYS
Send the guys off to Sonoma to visit John Ash & Co. for one of the area’s best culinary experiences and an atmosphere designed for the guy’s guy.
THE WELCOME PARTY
Set up a wine shuttle to give your guests both a tour of the area and as many tastings as they can handle. Explore both the history and the all around deliciousness that Napa is known for.
MORNING AFTER BRUNCH
Don’t let your guests leave the area without brunch at the famous Bouchon. The perfect way to thank them for spending the weekend with you.
JUST THE TWO OF YOU
After your guests leave, grab a simple picnic lunch and head over to V. Sattui for a peaceful tasting and lunch to reflect on the weekend.
The above image is from Natalie & Pat’s Napa Wedding courtesy of the talented, Jose Villa.
VERA WANG TRUNKSHOW
Vera Wang’s latest collection is going to be showcased this weekend at their Melrose location. Definitely, definitely, definitely call my friend David to schedule an appointment. I’ve had a sneak peek and you are going to love every little gown!
PERFECT
Perfect is boring anyways…
This beautiful moment was captured by Max Wanger from Jody & Patrick’s Santa Barbara wedding.
COCKTAILS I LOVE
I try not to be overly high maintenance, but I do love a fancy pants cocktails on occasion. Room Forty put together some amazing cocktails for me awhile back and I just had to share the recipes so ya’ll can make these at home. My absolute favorite is the Collins Rouge . Here’s a picture of each courtesy of Steve Steinhardt. Enjoy!
WEDDINGS THAT MAKE THE EARTH HAPPY
Here are just a few of the lovely ways we recommend being earth friendly at your celebration…
Instead of printing individual menus, have one or two larger menus on mirrors, chalkboards or printed in a frame…For throw pillows and area decor, choose fabrics and details that you can then turn around and incorporate into your home decor.
Image by Jonathan Canlas from Nina & Russell’s Smog Shop Wedding
Succulents are the ultimate in being friendly to the world. After the wedding, you can literally throw them in your back yard where they will reroot and continue to thrive.
Image by Steve Steinhardt from Zoe & Griff’s Brentwood Wedding
Choose linens of natural fibers when possible like these Russian Linen drapes from La Tavola. Also, ask your linen supplier how they clean and process the linens to be sure they are doing their part to keep the earth happy.
Image by Corbin Gurkin from Michelle & Austin’s Clambake in East Hampton
Using found furniture and items is a great way to bring life back to older items. For this French wedding, we collected furniture throughout Paris to create both an eclectic and eco-friendly design.
Image by Steve Steinhardt from Jessica & Chetan’s Parisian Wedding
Use nature as your decor. Consider acorns, pine cones or other details to add charm and be kind to the earth. Potted plants and herbs that can be repurposed after the wedding can also be very chummy to the world.
Left Image by Jose Villa of Louisa & John’s Malibu Wedding
Right Image by Steve Steinhardt of Alyssa & Ryan’s Wedding at Saddlerock Ranch.
When possible feature local products and farms on the menu or in favors. Above, Angie & Brett, made homemade jam with Santa Barbara strawberries. So lovely!
Image by Meg Perotti of Angie & Brett’s Santa Barbara Wedding at San Ysidro Ranch
Centerpieces made of fresh fruit that can actually be consumed is always a hit and nothing is more earth-friendly than using heirlooms instead of buying new. For this Malibu wedding, we used a ring bearer pillow that had been through several family weddings.
Left Image by Steve Steinhardt of Jessica & Chetan’s Medieval welcome party at the Chateau d’ Esclimont in France.
Right Image by Steve Steinhardt of Bettina & Brian’s Gull’s Way Wedding
KARI & ELAN GET HITCHED : CARMEL, CALIFORNIA
Kari & Elan were the loveliest tree huggers we’ve ever had the opportunity to work with. We loved working with them to create an urban oasis in Carmel highlands, completely inspired by the landscape of Big Sur and completely and utterly green. From plantable invitations made with handmade paper to every detail of the seven course tasting meal being locally grown and sustainable, it was beautiful to see that this couple loved Mother Earth as much as they loved each other. We used air plants, succulents and orchids on the actual plant instead of cutting flowers which not only was environmentally sound, but also now all of the plants used from the wedding have made a home in Kari & Elan’s personal garden. I just love their story…and how beautiful is Kari? I just loved her bohemian style and was honored to help create her vision at the beautiful Point Lobos Ridge. Enjoy the images from Tiny Water and see the entire gallery over on Style Me Pretty…
MONIQUE LHUILLIER
It’s that time again! Monique Lhuillier trunk show. Call my friends, Hannah, Hannah Jo or Cait to check it out! 
EARTH FRIENDLY DETAILS
Here are just a few of our favorite details for all of you earth-loving couples out there…
1. Plantable Signage 2. I Love You Plant Kit 3. Plant the Packaging Herb & Veggie Candles 4. Eco-dough
5. Seed Bombs from a local vendor
HAPPY EARTH DAY
Inspired by mother earth…
Top Row: Wood Erns from Tess & Peter’s Bel Air Wedding
Second Row: Organic Wedding Cake/Garden Favors via La Tartine Gourmande
Third Row: Winston Howes tribute to his Late Wife/Rustic Stationary from Amelia & Danny’s Colorado Wedding
Fourth Row: Mountain Ceremony Backdrop from Amelia & Danny’s Colorado Wedding
Fifth Row: Floral Headdress via Studded Rose/Ferngully from Kari & Elan’s Carmel Wedding
Sixth Row: Book of Irish Poetry via Coralie Bickford-Smith
Last Row: Frida Kahlo Self-Portrait/Potted Tablescape from Amelia & Danny’s Colorado Wedding
