Anatomy of a Dinner Table

Tuesday, February 9, 2010


Just in case you are all dying to know how my little head works, I thought I would give you a list of the 12 items I consider when designing a dinner table. For a finished look, you don't necessarily have to go all out when it comes to each of these elements, but definitely be sure to ask your planner, caterer, venue coordinator, etc. about certain elements to make sure those florals you put so much thought into aren't ruined by the rest of the items composing your table.

1. I know I'm like a broken record when it comes to linens, but they are super important! They're the palette that is your wedding table design and make all of the difference in the world. For the wedding shown above, she wanted an earthy, organic vibe and for this reason we went with an ultra natural russian linen in a wheat color from Wildflower Linen. If you, on the other hand, are more into glamour, you might like a dupioni silk or another more luxurious linen.

2. But, before you can select linens, you need to decide what shape of table you prefer. Are you all about the intimacy of a long table? Or, are you more modern and prefer the edge of a square top? Maybe you are completely traditonal and like rounds? Or, maybe, just maybe, you aren't afraid to mix it up a bit and include some of each shape. No matter what, think about your preference before getting too far into your table design as it will dictate everything from your centerpiece style to linen sizes to how the tables fit into your venue.

3. Chairs are right up there with linens in my book. I know many people don't think they matter, but let me tell you, if you have the WRONG chair, they definitely matter. Chairs should blend in with your day, not stand out. So, spend a little time considering the right chair for your look. Oh, and yes, if the budget allows, coordinating chair pads like the ones shown at this event are so very lovely.


4. The centerpiece is a given and usually the first (and sometimes the only) thing couples think about but the centerpiece size, shape and composition is dependent on not only your style, but also the size and shape of the dinner table. For example, a single centerpiece can hold a round table table, but long tables almost always need multiple pieces. Also, I personally think a cluster of vessels also works best on a square table, but of course that's just a matter of personal preference and budget.

5. If you are hoping to put the favors at each place setting, I recommend thinking about their presentation a bit. Not that you shouldn't anyway, but a perfectly lovely dinner table can be tainted with an organza satchel filled with M&M's. For 99% of my weddings, I recommend the favors have their own special place in the reception near the exit, but if you want to see them on the dinner tables, think carefullly about the packaging and how they fit into the overall design.

6. Lighting on the dinner table is always important whether it is as simple as adding votive candles or a bit more complicated like pin spotting each centerpiece.Work with your planner, florist or lighting designer to come up with the best options for your dinner tables.


7. The napkin fold is one area that many couples don't think about. Here's my advice: When in doubt go with a flat fold. This isn't arts and crafts time and I doubt a swan, bird of paradise or any other shape is going to be a sophisticated touch to your dinner table. No matter what though, ask your caterer or venue coordinator how they typically fold the napkin and make sure you are okay with their suggestion.

8. The napkin treatment is one of my favorite touches. I just think it's a special treat for each guest when they sit down and, it, obviously, finishes the table. Fabric wraps, lace, twine, ribbons, fresh flowers, herbs, or even just a personalized dinner menu can all be sweet touches.

9. While many hotels or venues with on site catering might already have in house china, it's always good to ask what your options are to make sure they work with your look. If the in house options aren't the best choice, but you don't have a huge budget allocated for this area, you might just rent a charger or decorative plate for each place setting and use the in house china to actually serve the food on. When working at a private estate or another venue where you have to bring in all of your rentals, make some time to visit the rental show room to pick the perfect pattern for your table design.

10 & 11. Glassware and flatware is the same scenario as china. If your venue includes it, you may not want to allocate your budget to changing it up, but it's something to consider as you are planning the other details of your table top design.

12. The place card is just one final area that I like to give a little thought to. For this wedding we used pine cones as the place card holders and while you can't see it in this image, calligraphy is almost always a must in my book. For your day, a place card tied to the back of the chair or simply tucked into the napkin might be perfect, but no matter what give it a little bit of thought when choosing the presentation and placement of the place card.

Real Life Bride: Week 14

Monday, February 8, 2010




...still has a real life! This past week was all about a BIG event - but it wasn't our wedding! Saturday was my company's annual fundraising gala that I organized from start to finish. When I started at my new job they were going to be doing a Casino Night, but they'd done that three times in the last five years, so I decided it was time for something new. After some brainstorming, I was thinking a Cirque theme could be really fun, and then the light bulb went off - Cirque du Seacrest Masquerade Ball!! (Seacrest is our company name). The women on the committee were hesitant, but after I worked with the designer to create the event design, I definitely won their confidence.

Long story short, it was a week full of finalizing all of the details including seating, programming, decor and the 30 minute Cirque show itself, working with the hotel on the banquet orders, and of course coordinating all of the vendors. Despite having an extremely detailed timeline and going over everything multiple times, there will always be minor snags, but ultimately the night was a huge success! All of the guests had a wonderful time, the Cirque show was amazing, and it was unlike anything this organization had ever seen; and my bosses were more than pleased, which never hurts.

Even though the focus of my week was the gala, I have yet to go an entire week without doing anything wedding related. This week we booked a block of hotel rooms at a second hotel for our guests, but that was it! Ryan and I are enjoying the lull in wedding planning, knowing that in just a couple short months things will pick up again and the wedding will be here before we know it, and I am so happy to have Beth handling all the details for us..instead of me!

The Guest List

Sunday, February 7, 2010

The guest list is the nemesis of every couple...and of course, the father of the bride

We heart hearts!

Saturday, February 6, 2010

I know it may be cheesy, but I am one of those girly girls who loves Valentine's day! I would like nothing more than to string a garland made of crocheted hearts in shades of pink throughout my backyard, throw some embroidered linens on a picnic table and host an uber-feminine tea party with a few (or even all) of these heart shaped goodies. 
 
 


 











sweet crocheted heart garland from bella dia, comforting hot tea in heart shaped cups from Squidoo, heart shaped cupcakes from cupcakes take the cake (they certainly do!), epicute's sweet heart shaped jam sammies which could be a cute option for any tea sandwich, a heart shaped linzer tart from andrea's cookies, heart shaped goodies from eat drink chic, simple but sweet conversation hearts, i heart martha and her heart shaped ice cream sandwiches and her sweetest little heart cookies, heart shaped rice krispy pops from skip to my lou

Friday, February 5, 2010


We just received our floral quote and we are being charged a "strike" fee. What is this for?"Strike" refers to the tear down and clean up of your event. You may hear this term amongst your team of vendors often throughout the planning process. The fee is to pay for the floral staff to come back at 1am, 3am or even Sunday morning at 7am, to remove and clean up the florals following your event. It's a common expense and the later in the evening or earlier in the morning they have to return, the more the fee typically is. While it can never be guaranteed, I do sometimes ask the venue if they will allow a next day strike to shave a few dollars on this fee. However, only venues that do not have an event the next day will consider offering this courtesy.




Something Borrowed

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Following up from my posts on "something old" and "something new" from the past two weeks, today, I'm sharing some suggestions on what you can do for your "something borrowed." Because there is no way for me to know what your best friend or Aunt Cathy might have in their arsenal to loan you, I am just giving you a few suggestions on how to meet the requirement without ruining your wedding day style:

 Borrowing your friend or family member's veil if they have a similar style as you can be a good option. If you are skipping the veil, a lovely headband or other hair accessory can be amazing as well.
Classic diamond earrings can be an easy find amongst your friend's jewelry box.
I don't know about yours, but my grandmother has the most out of this world vintage handkerchiefs in her collection. They are perfect for wrapping around the handle of your bouquet.
Another easy find is a classic strand of pearls like this glorious Chanel necklace.
Ask your grandmother or an older female relative what bag they carried on their wedding day. You just may find the perfect vintage clutch among their closets.

It may sound weird but when my best friend married, she borrowed the underskirt I wore on my wedding. Obvisouly not the right choice for every bride, but if you want to hide your something borrowed while saving a few dollars, this can be a good option.
Many of my Catholic brides have borrowed Rosary beads to wrap around their bouquet. A beautiful and appropriate touch for a religious wedding.

A lovely brooch to add to your clutch or bouquet is charming and the perfect element to borrow.



Handmade Goodness: Wood Invitations

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Ever since my Cowboy Themed Baby Shower was featured on Hostess with the Mostess , I've received many questions about the invitations. Truth be told they were a DIY project that my team created and might even be good for your own events. The wood look was perfect for our Western theme and could be good if you are also inspired by the Old West or even if you just like the feel that wood brings to your event.
Materials:
~Computer program to layout invitation (I personally used Photoshop, but you could use something more basic like Paint)
~8.5x11 heat transfer sheets (I bought mine at Target, but Michael's or Wal-Mart also has them)
~4x6 mini slabs of wood (Approximately $1.50 for 2 slabs at Michael's craft store in their unfinished wood department)
~Iron to iron-on the heat transfer sheets

1. Before getting started, set your page settings to 4x6 so you are designing on the right size of "paper". From there layout the invitation using whatever font you prefer. I chose the Outlaw font because it felt a bit western and was perfect for my cowboy theme, but definitely play around with what feels right for your event. 2. Once the invitation is layed out exactly as you like on the computer, use the "flip" command to make a mirror image of your invitation.

3. Once you have a mirror image it's time to print your file. Make sure to buy plenty of extra paper as there is a lot of room for error when it's time to transfer the paper onto the wood.

4. Place the paper, print side down, onto the slab of wood. Place a well heated iron on top of the paper and press as long as the instructions advise. Mine took about 45 seconds each, but every heat transfer paper is different.

5. Voila! you have a wood invitation. I personally sent mine out in craft paper wrapping filled with hay and sealed with a red gingham ribbon, but there are many options to consider for your presentation.

One word of caution: Expect to make several errors during the iron on process. For example, every third invitation I made was unusable. This being said, I definitely do not recommend this project if you are sending out a ton of invitations. I personally only needed 10 so it worked well for me, but if you are having a larger party, definitely, definitely, definetly hire a professional. From my experience, DIY projects are only fun when you only need a few perfect specimens!